Those relationship problems never seem to go away. Why is that? Is it possible that problems are a by-product of a relationship?
What is a problem anyway? It is a certain thing, or situation that you are not willing to accept as it is. You want to change it.
What do we want from a relationship? What is a relationship without problems?
There is no relationship without problems! There is no life without problems! For the reason that we always want to change; change ourselves, others, situation. Life is change!
The bottom line is we will always have problems. Deal with it! Learn from it! Laugh at it! Make problems your ally! Change your perception of the problems.
Don't fear them: fear creates resistance. What we resist will persist. Love them. Love transforms. To love is to understand and accept.
What we are looking for is always right here, right now.We don't want to accept it; we prefer to expect it. (smile)
Over 90% of all failed relationships result from a lack of honest communication and awareness. Awareness is a key to an honest communication.
Thus, a relationship is a partnership, a friendship where people can support each other in life, being fully aware that they are getting into it out of basic need - survival. Only then true intimacy and honesty can take place in a relationship.
Starting a relationship with the belief that it is for the sake of (emotional) love manifests expectations, which will never be met. On the other hand, being aware of the true motives and acting upon them with humbleness will create moments of unconditional love.
We need a true friend!
"A true friend knows your weaknesses but shows you your strengths; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities."
--William Arthur Ward