Saturday, August 18, 2012

Bad Relationships

Some people may say that bad relationships are just a part of life. This may in fact be true, as most people have experienced a bad relationship at some point in their lives. There are many different types of relationships to consider though, and each kind can be treated differently. A romantic relationship that has gone bad has quite a different set of circumstances than a bad relationship with someone at work. Any strained relationship can be uncomfortable though.


Bad relationships with people at work can involve many levels of concern. If the person you are having a difficult time getting along with is a co-worker of equal "rank" within the organization, you can try working things out on your own or you can take the matter to a superior in extreme cases. In this situation, working things out on your own is probably preferable in cases of a minor nature.

If the person you have a bad work relationship with is a superior, you have a much more sensitive situation. This situation is very much dependent on the individual circumstances. Before opening any cans of worms that you may regret, take an honest look at your performance to see if that may be the root of the issue. If it is, then you should try doing what is expected of you at your job, assuming that it falls within the job description you signed on for when you were hired. If the problem goes deeper or is at a personal level, you may be forced to look elsewhere in your work environment for support. You must tread carefully in this area but you should not let yourself be the victim of any unfair abuse. If necessary, you should consult a professional trained in this area of conflict before proceeding.

If your bad relationships tend to be with romantic partners, you should once again look at your own part in the situation before escalating things.

A relationship of this type is based on both partners being equal. If the relationship is not equal, that in itself could be the basis of the problem. Remember that you should never feel subservient or inferior in a romantic relationship. Being in a romantic relationship is a choice and you should not be in it against your will.

Sometimes, as a relationship matures, people may begin to take each other for granted and drift apart. This is not a healthy thing, but it does not necessarily spell the absolute end of things. Often, when both partners are willing and able to work on making things better, this trend can be reversed. If you have already broken up, a little distance can sometimes give you and your ex a new perspective on the situation. Making up after things go bad can happen. It is not always fast or easy, but it is possible.

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